“Preventing a Life Time of Self Inflicting Servitude – There’s More to You Than Black, Female, or Gay.”

A Survival Guide for any 10-year-old American

Jerome Mark Antil

(If you can’t read, have someone read it to you.)

Don’t trust anyone to raise you.  Today you must raise yourself.

1. Find someone who likes to read and get them to read to you every week.

Have them read a chapter or a book to you, but do it the same time every week.  In return, tell them, you’ll wash their windows, or carry out their garbage, or wash their cars – just get read to each week at least once a week and do it without fail.  Ask your parents, ask your neighbors, ask your friend’s parents. Ask a librarian.  Just don’t rest until you find someone you can trust to read to you every week.  This alone can save your life when you’re over twenty-five.  Having been read to will give you reading skills.  You will get better jobs and have a richer, fuller life if you’re a reader.

2. Never watch the NEWS on television.

Television only makes money by selling advertising.  They must build an audience by creating interesting shows before they get enough viewers to sell advertising.  Most advertising is directed to the ten to fourteen-year-old because you haven’t been brainwashed by brand names yet. They will ‘create’ news so they can sell advertising and it will be unhealthy to watch. If something shocking happens they will repeat it thousands of times knowing there are people who like to watch for shock value.  Don’t watch the news on national television or cable.  News is not news…it’s meant to be interesting but it is still only entertainment to attract a young audience so they can sell advertising.  News people who get paid a lot of money just to tell you something can’t be trusted.  They will tell you only what whoever pays them wants or permits them to say.  You can better trust weathermen and women.

3. Don’t trust your teacher to teach you everything.

Many teachers belong to unions and must do what they are told to do by their unions.  Unions determine a teacher’s pay and benefits. Teachers often do not teach manners, they’re not paid to.  They teach you political correctness – but not manners.  Having manners will get you better jobs and make you more money than will political correctness. You must teach yourself manners – how to always hold a door open for the next person.  How to be polite.  You must rely on yourself to learn how to always say please and thank you.  Get a book of etiquette from the public library and learn it.

4. No one is equal.

Some are taller, some are shorter.  Some are stronger, some are weaker. Some are smarter, some must work harder at studying. Some are black, some are white, some are Asian, some are brown.  Some are male, some are female. Some are gay, some are straight, some are transsexual. No one is equal – except maybe twins or triplets, perhaps. But we all do cry, we all do laugh, we all get hurt, we all can vote, we all can get licenses to drive…we can all do those things equally, so we all do have equal rights…we’re just all different in our own way on everything else.  Don’t let anyone confuse you on this. So, should there be a special Men’s Room or a Ladies Room or a Transsexual Room?  Probably not.  Since we all have equal rights, there should simply be a ‘Bathroom’ people use, one person at a time.  We’ve had them in every home and on every airplane for years.

5. Become an Apprentice.

College doesn’t mean anything if you haven’t learned a trade or developed a skill or a talent by the time you go. All college does is teach you how to think better. Find something that interests you at the age of ten.  Most successful people knew what they wanted to be when they were ten. It could be something mechanical.  Working with your hands. It could be working with animals.  It could be working with people.  It could be working with sick people – or old people.  It could be in sales.  It could be anything you think you may have an interest in.  Maybe fixing clocks, shoe repair, plumbing, electrical.  You may want to be a writer, an artist. Find something that interests you and go to that kind of company and ask for the owner or manager.  Stand tall, remember your manners – and tell them that you have an interest in working in their industry when you are older and you would like an apprenticeship and that you would work for them after school or on weekends for little or no wages if they will teach you what it’s like and how it’s done.  When you get your apprenticeship, fill out a diary every day of what you’ve learned.  And be patient and be observant.  You can learn by watching others as well as doing things yourself.


How to Always Present Yourself for Success


I started this by saying “Preventing a Life Time of Self Inflicting Servitude – There’s More to You Than Black, Female, or Gay”…

…it is just a metaphor.  That means it is meant to say most people don’t care about anything more than can you do the job, or can you be a true friend and do you have what it takes to try to do either one the best you know how.  People make a first impression of you that will last their lifetime. That’s why – can you do the job, or can you be a true friend and will you try to do either one the best you know how – should be the only message that comes out of your mouth when you first meet someone – whether it be socially or for a job interview.  And do it with a smile, a handshake and introduction. Be confident in your value and self-worth. Why would you ever weaken the power of your self-worth message by walking in and opening with self-proclaimed insecure warning labels.  Why would you create your first impression what you know there are issues in some but not all places – with some but not all people.

I can’t imagine Oprah Winfrey walking in saying, “I’m black and I’m a woman, but please give me a chance…”  She’s more likely to come in and say, “I’m good.  I can do this. I’ve got it handled, if you let me,” and show her ability.

Ellen DeGeneres doesn’t say, “I’m gay but give me a chance…”  She dances in with an infectious smile and owns the show.

Michael Jordan doesn’t say, “I’m black but give me a chance in business…”  He picked up a basketball and showed his talents and then manages to continue to be one of the richest men in America by running his own business show.

People are people and potential employers, are all the same. I think an employer might rather hear an ‘I’m the best person for this job because ‘I’m smart, I learn faster, I try harder and I care more’.

When it comes to effort, integrity, work ethic and talent – we each share the opportunity to earn these virtues equally.  I think employers only want to know you have them, little else.

Potential friends are the same.  They’ll take you as you are with the first impression you choose to give them.  You’ll never have to go on the defensive.  If you feel you must, they won’t be good friends anyway.

Try to remember. Successful people do the things those who don’t quite make it don’t want to do.

…and that also means never give up.  If you make a call and get no answer – go make another call, and another, and another.  Don’t ever give up.

Now, read this whole thing over again…

…and do it.

Good luck.  You can do it all.

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